When Diners' Eyes Feast on Their Cellphones

By Jessica Gelt

Some restaurants try to accommodate smartphone addicts and even join in. Others try to discourage the diner distraction.

Ding. Bzzzt. Bap. Beep. That's the sound of conversation in restaurants these days. Where cellphones once posed a nuisance as people chatted loudly into them during meals, they now present a whole new set of etiquette issues as entire tables disappear into the Internet via small glowing screens.

Like an analog world-munching Pac-Man, the modern cellphone has morphed into instant messenger, mailbox, camera, flashlight, computer, map, dictionary, newspaper, personal assistant and social media portal. And as such its use at the table has become so prevalent that "restaurants are now forced to incorporate how to deal with them into the sequence of service and table maintenance," says Eric Rosenfeld, the general manager of the lush trattoria Il Covo, in Mid-City L.A., which has begun offering diners small plates to hold their phones in order to shield them from potential spills and dinner debris.

Some fine dining restaurants frown upon cellphone use - at Patina, the menu requests, "This restaurant is a quiet haven from the stress and tumult of everyday life. Please help us by turning your cell phone to vibrate while dining." And a few places, such as Sushi Nozawa, go as far as to post "no cellphone" signs. But most restaurants, like Il Covo, are finding ways to address what many consider the new reality of our fast-paced digital era while at the same time working to encourage diners to stay involved with their dining companions.

"If a diner would like to have their phone on the table, we want to protect it as much as possible," Rosenfeld explains, adding that many restaurants in Los Angeles even keep a discreet stash of iPhone and BlackBerry chargers on hand and train servers on how and when to approach a diner on a phone and what to do if a phone is in the way when it comes time to deliver a plate. (The hard and fast rule is never put your hands on another man's phone.)

That's the practical side. There is also the matter of manners, and when it comes to that thorny issue, most people will tell you that using a phone at the table is not polite while simultaneously admitting to being guilty of having used their phone at the table. It's a form of digital hypocrisy that has foodies chatting, both online and off.

Or so it seemed to friends John Purcell, a lawyer, and Katie Sticksell, a restaurant manager, who recently coined the term "reciprocell" in the Urban Dictionary. Reciprocell refers to the behavior that opens the door to all of that tableside chirping, humming and busy cellphone buzzing.

"We noticed that once one person at the table took out their phone, instead of complaining, everyone else sort of did it," says Purcell of the word and its definition, which is, "The act of checking one's email after a companion has pulled his or her BlackBerry or iPhone out first. Often used when one is initially afraid of being criticized for checking the phone."

The blithe wink-and-nod conjured by the word "reciprocell" pretty much sums up most people's feeling about the issue: It's simply part of the wireless fabric of 21st century living, one worthy of examination and in dire need of a digital-era Emily Post.

"It's a busy world now, so it's hard to tell people to not text when they have so much business going on and so many business dinners," says celebrity chef Kerry Simon of Simon L.A. and Simon Restaurant & Lounge at Palms Casino in Las Vegas. "What are you going to do? You can't dictate to diners how to behave."